by Dee Delacher

tween-girls-self-esteemHey, Girl Moguls!  Have you ever done something that you really didn’t want to do just because your friends wanted you to?  I sure have.  In fact, I want to share a story with you from when I was eight years old:

My face was getting hotter by the minute.  My friends were totally staring at me.  They expected me to lie so that the girls’ team would win the math competition in class.

My teacher was staring at me too.  He was waiting for me to report my score.

And inside I was battling between doing what was right or making my friends happy.  I opened my mouth and out came a score of 85%, a score slightly higher than the 80% that was screaming back at me.

As my teacher declared the girls the winner, I was mobbed with high-fives and hugs.  Meanwhile, the boys, particularly the one who had corrected my paper, shouted out in opposition.

“She cheated!” I heard them accuse.

My face turned a crimson shade of red as I slid further down in my seat.  My one second of glory in the eyes of my friends had turned into disappointment in the eyes of my teacher, and would soon turn into a harsh punishment from my parents.

I was only in third grade and I was already choosing paths that were going against what my parents had taught me.  I questioned who my friends really were and why lying made them like me more.  How could I stay true to myself and still surround myself with the friends that I so wanted?

That is where this cool program called Girls on the Run comes in.  It is a program for girls eight to thirteen and it was started by a woman who struggled with her changing body and these same dilemmas that she calls “Girl-Box” issues.

We have all dealt with them; whether it be starving ourselves to be “skinny” in the eyes of our peers, trying something because our friends want us to, or even telling a little white lie to our parents in order to do something we know is wrong.  Anytime we do things that we don’t want to do in order to please others, we are stepping into the “Girl-Box” and we lose a piece of our own identity.

Molly Barker, the founder of Girls on the Run, was losing pieces of herself and started running in order to deal with the stresses of being a teenage girl.  Running made her feel beautiful and powerful and allowed her to shatter that box that surrounded her.  She decided that she was going to start a program that would help create a world where girls would never have to climb out of the box and could live peacefully and happily simply being themselves.

Wouldn’t it be fun to get together with a bunch of girls who are all looking for a way out of the box, or better yet, a way to stay out of the box completely?  Girls on the Run is that place.

It is a 12-week program that combines training for a 5k run with self-esteem building lessons.  Each week you will meet with your volunteer coaches and team and will complete various activities that correspond to weekly topics and goals.  There is even a question and answer time where you can get some answers and tips that could help you with problems you are having in school or at home.

Most girls finish the program with the tools to help them stay out of the box by giving them a stronger sense of identity, a greater acceptance of themselves, a healthier body image, and a greater understanding of what it means to be part of a team.

Girls on the Run programs start up in the spring and you can find one in most states.  Just go to to see if there is a program near you.  If not, ask your parent, teacher, or mentor to start one up at your school.  So go find a program and lace-up, so you, too, can stay out of the box!


Dee Delacher is a writer and mother who is passionate about Girls on the Run – and igniting some girl power.

Are You Afraid of Being a Smarty Pants

Afraid of being labeled a Nerd?
Afraid of being labeled a Nerd?

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Poppy here, and since it’s back to school time, I wanted to talk about something that I see all the time.  As you may know, umm, so people consider me kinda of a nerd.  Yup, it’s true, but you know what I’m over it – I embrace my nerdiness.  But it wasn’t always like that.  I mean we all know that the kids at school like to make fun of smart kids.  Have you ever played dumber than you are because YOU WERE AFRAID you’d get made fun of?

Well if you have, then SMARTEN UP Sister!  Being smart is a good thing, and it doesn’t mean you have to be a nerd.  The reason other kids make fun of the smart kids is because they’re jealous – jealous of your good grades, your study habits, of how easy school is for you.  They feel bad and they want you to feel bad too.

BUT don’t let them hold you back – and if you show you’re insecure about they may tease you even more.  And holding back in school may really mess up your future – I mean after all, wouldn’t you rather be called a nerd every once a while but know you’re heading off to college?  When you’re accepting your diploma, you probably won’t even remember the names of all those kids who dared to tease you, the proud, the smart – the NERD!

GirlMogul Poppy
GirlMogul Poppy

Posted by GirlMogul Poppy, aka the Nerd

How to Start A Tricky Convesation

How to Start a Conversation About Feelings
How to Start a Conversation About Feelings

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Daisy here again, with more about Feelings… yeah – I know, not what you’d expect from me, but I think that’s why Abby assigned this topic to me.  I mean, I would rather poke needles in my eye than talk about my feelings.  Ok, not really, but according to Lily I am more of the try and ignore my feelings until they go away personality, than deal with them up front… So in my last posts I talked about ways to find someone to talk to you about your feelings.  So great, you’ve got your feeling buddy all id’d and now what to you do.  Do you go up to them and say, hey I need to talk about my feelings, got five minutes, or an hour, cause that’s how long it might take…. Yeah right – you wouldn’t want to approach the situation that way… but here are some simple ways to get a difficult topic started:

– I am feeling uncomfortable about sharing this…

– Is this a good time to talk about something important (this works well with adults – they don’t like to be interupted, unless they think you’re about to share, in which case, most will say yes – or they will say no but they will find time for you later…

– I need to share something that’s bothering me… – this is sure to get someone’s attention

– Sometime I feel so (angry, sad, upset) I don’t know what to do. Can you give me some advice?  (trust me, just about anyone will LOVE to give you advice, especially if you ask for it…)

So guess what the hardest part of this touchy feely talk is?  You guessed it – – getting started.  So just try.  Remember adults are all serious anyway and will respect that you’re trying to sound grown up – instead of running into someone’s office, house, kitchen all bawling, or sulking or generally behaving like they think a kid is supposed to.

So good luck with your feelings – check out our other posts on How to Deal to have all your questions answered….

Posted by GirlMogul Daisy
Posted by GirlMogul Daisy

Posted by GirlMogul Daisy

What are You Feeling?

Dealing with Tween Emotions
Dealing with Tween Emotions

Hey GirlMoguls – it’s Daisy here and I am back with my whole experiment on this feeling thing.  In my last post I wrote about keeping a feelings journal – either your own private notebook on your computer to help you learn how to deal with your moods  — like how to identify how different situations make you feel – including the ones that make your feel good and the ones that make you feel, well not so good.  I mean sometimes it seems like life is more full of downs than ups.

But when I started to think about all the different things that happen and writing about how they make me feel, I realized that there are just as many ups too.  I mean, sometimes, just hanging with the girls at the library, talking and working makes me feel pretty happy.   It’s not like I had to ace a test of win the Xeron Raiders virtual championship to feel good about myself.

Of course sometimes, you may be so down that you can’t see the up side.  In that case, just writing about your feelings might seem like you’re throwing a pity party for one – ouch.  So it can be better to actually talk to someone about how you feel.  But just like when you started to write them down – you wanted to make sure they stayed private, you’ll want to pick a good person to talk to.  And sometimes, well it just can’t be your friends.  You might need a more objective view – someone with a bit of distance and by that I mean older….and not always your parents…because c’mon you’re likely gonna have some “feeling’ about them…

Luckily the GirlMoguls have Abby who’s like a super cool big sister without being, well part of the family (and all judgy and worried about mom or dad).  Maybe you know someone like that too – someone older, but not too old, someone trustworthy you could talk to.  If not, here are a few tips for finding someone cool enough to talk to.

  • Who has given me support in the past
  • Who’s good at giving advice
  • Who do I feel comfortable sharing my feelings with?
  • Who do I trust with my innermost thoughts?
  • Who is sensitive and kind
  • Who really listens to me
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Posted by GirlMogul Daisy

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