iPhone Madness

IPhone madness has arrived.  As a little bit of a geek, I eagerly await the iPhone.  It just looks so darn cool.  And I will be the envy of other tech savvy moms around, I just know it. But am I going to line up to get it – no way (while I may have the money, just barely, to afford one, I certainly don’t have the luxury of time).

 Here’s a view of all the people lining up for the phone…


 my guess – a lot of intern and famous/rich persons assistants are waiting there.  Who else has the time and money for one of these things.

So how badly do you want an iPhone?


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I knew it

Gender pay gap begins 1 year after college
Study finds women make only 80 percent of salaries of male peers
Actually for a long time I didn’t know it because I made more money than my husband.  At first it was because I worked in the private sector, and he in the public.  Then I went to business school and got a job in consulting while he went to law school.  And even after he landed a job as an associate, I still made more because I had been in the workplace longer.  Now after 2 maternity leaves, some part-time work, I find myself stagnant in pay, while my husband’s has continued to go up and surpass me (I keep remindind myself – this is not a competition, this is not a competition…)
But what is a competitive working mother supposed to do?  The article goes on to say: "
Even after controlling for hours, occupation, parenthood, and other factors known to affect earnings, the study found that one-quarter of the pay gap remains unexplained. The group said that portion of the gap is “likely due to sex discrimination.”
Imagine that – discrimination in the worklplace.  I can’t believe.  Of course I can – I have worked in very male-centric environments and there are few woman role models.  But can discrimation really still exist in this day and age?  Is it too easy for us as women to hide behind our lower salaries and cry discrimination, when in fact it’s more about a personal choice?  The article goes on to say,
Catherine Hill, the organization’s director of research, said: “Part of the wage difference is a result of people’s choices, another part is employer’s assumptions of what people’s choices will be. … Employers assume that young women are going to leave the work force when they have children, and, therefore, don’t promote them.”
Well – that I can somewhat believe.  People assume I don’t want to travel (not every day, but a night in a hotel room by myself sounds like heaven after sleeping on my 2-year old’s floor).  People assume that I need to take it easy when I come back from maternity leave – wrong – please don’t leave me so bored at work that I regret I came back…Engage me! 
So how do, working women/mothers respond?  What can we do?  Stand up for ourselves – the squeaky wheel gets the oil.  The one who asks for the promotion gets it – you’ll find a way to handle it.  Learn how to combine work and motherhood and set an example.  Sometimes I tell myself I am being a Higglytown Hero just by getting up and going to work every morning as a mother – I am showing my teachers, my friends, my family and my bosses, that yes, it can be done.
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The Feminine Mistake

There is a new book out there that I confess to not having read, but I will write about it anyway.   The Feminine Mistake.  Catchy title, especially for someone for whom the Feminine Mystique was a required book (Women’s college).   In it, the author Leslie Bennetts contends that women are making “willfully retrograde choice" of relying on men to support them and their children.   Opting out of the workforce for these well educated women who have highly paid and well-educated husbands is a nice luxury, but jeopardizes these women’s ability to provide for themselves in the event that their husband in unable (or unwilling) to support them.  It also drags down their retirement savings, ups medical costs and impedes their ability to get back into the workforce.
Gee – ya think?   Of course, these are women with a choice – for whom work is a luxury almost, a matter of fulfillment, who must have husbands who are quite successful.  They’re rolling the dice, hoping that the good catch will keep working like heck to support them and the family, that the good catch won’t meet a more interesting, younger, skinnier model out and about and trade them in, etc.
In my mind as much as having it all can suck (husband left early, two kids up at 4 am, poppy diaper 30 seconds before daycare departure, my brain so numb from lack of sleep that I need a GIANT Coffee) sometimes, I am just not sure that I could rely on anyone else for my money.  Justify my cheesy paperback novel habit?  Please.  Ask for an allowance?  Not be prepared to support myself in case of emergency?  The of course there is that other argument – these are your kids – what else could be more important?