What are You Feeling?

Dealing with Tween Emotions
Dealing with Tween Emotions

Hey GirlMoguls – it’s Daisy here and I am back with my whole experiment on this feeling thing.  In my last post I wrote about keeping a feelings journal – either your own private notebook on your computer to help you learn how to deal with your moods  — like how to identify how different situations make you feel – including the ones that make your feel good and the ones that make you feel, well not so good.  I mean sometimes it seems like life is more full of downs than ups.

But when I started to think about all the different things that happen and writing about how they make me feel, I realized that there are just as many ups too.  I mean, sometimes, just hanging with the girls at the library, talking and working makes me feel pretty happy.   It’s not like I had to ace a test of win the Xeron Raiders virtual championship to feel good about myself.

Of course sometimes, you may be so down that you can’t see the up side.  In that case, just writing about your feelings might seem like you’re throwing a pity party for one – ouch.  So it can be better to actually talk to someone about how you feel.  But just like when you started to write them down – you wanted to make sure they stayed private, you’ll want to pick a good person to talk to.  And sometimes, well it just can’t be your friends.  You might need a more objective view – someone with a bit of distance and by that I mean older….and not always your parents…because c’mon you’re likely gonna have some “feeling’ about them…

Luckily the GirlMoguls have Abby who’s like a super cool big sister without being, well part of the family (and all judgy and worried about mom or dad).  Maybe you know someone like that too – someone older, but not too old, someone trustworthy you could talk to.  If not, here are a few tips for finding someone cool enough to talk to.

  • Who has given me support in the past
  • Who’s good at giving advice
  • Who do I feel comfortable sharing my feelings with?
  • Who do I trust with my innermost thoughts?
  • Who is sensitive and kind
  • Who really listens to me
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Feelings or How to Deal

Feelings Journal
Feelings Journal

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Daisy here and today I thought I’d write a bit about feelings – I mean after all we all have them.  Even me – sure I know I can be all tough on the outside, but really a lot of the time, I am just doing that to hide what’s going on inside.  And while you know I wouldn’t want to change me for the world – after all – who would point when Lily’s getting all super bossy – I thought maybe it was time to work a little on the inside…

Sometimes my dad likes to use weather words to describe my mood – stormy, changing.  She’s joking…I think, but sometimes I guess he”s right.  I can be pretty moody.  Just ask Lily.  So I wondered if there was anything I could do to help me, be well less moody.  So I did a little research and came across this great little exercise that I think will really help.

Ok, so first of all get out your secret notebook, journal, or pad of paper – or if you’re like me, you can use your computer (I like to put a password on my super private files – that no one can break in).
Now that you’re all set with a place to write stuff down, read through the following situations and think about if you’ve been in a similar situation – if you haven’t – use your imagination and think about what it would be like if you had:

  • Your teacher says, “I’ll have to call you parents if you keep doing poorly on tests.”
  • The boy you’re crushing on asks you to go to the school dance
  • Your dad or mom tells your sister how proud they are of her grades
  • Your mom tells you to go to bed, but your favorite tv show still has 20 minutes left on it
  • You wake up on Friday morning and find that school’s been canceled because of a monster snow storm
  • Time for gym class, and everyone, including you has to change in the locker room
  • A new friend says, out of the blue, “You’re so cool”
  • The ref makes a bad call against you at the biggest game of the season

You can set up up your mood journal this way

DATE:

WHAT I’M FEELING:

WHY I FEEL THIS WAY:

HOW I EXPRESSED THIS EMOTION:

WAYS TO FEEL BETTER WHEN I’M FEELING DOWN:

So take the time and go through any of the things that have happened recently – good and bad and write them down.  Next up will talk about ways to deal with the bad stuff – like stress, and how to make yourself feel super awesome even when things aren’t going your way….

Read more about this here…

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DIY Your Own Green Peace Message Tee

Hey GirlMoguls – we have a great new DIY project from our friend Ruby at www.makeitruby.com – A Green Peace Message Tee!  Check out this cool and enviro-friendly shirt you can make yourself – perfect to keep cool in the summertime.

“Green Peace Message Tee”

green_peace_message_teeRuby’s Tool Kit: plain tee, silk flower petals, fabric glue, scissors, needle & thread

1. Renew a plain tee with silk flower petals.

2. Using fabric glue & secure each petal. Start with a bottom layer.

3. For added durability use a needle & thread lightly stitching petals to tee. Leave the edges of the petals free for a cooler look:)

XOXO – Ruby – check out more great DIY crafts at http://www.makeitruby.com/