How to Start A Tricky Convesation

How to Start a Conversation About Feelings
How to Start a Conversation About Feelings

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Daisy here again, with more about Feelings… yeah – I know, not what you’d expect from me, but I think that’s why Abby assigned this topic to me.  I mean, I would rather poke needles in my eye than talk about my feelings.  Ok, not really, but according to Lily I am more of the try and ignore my feelings until they go away personality, than deal with them up front… So in my last posts I talked about ways to find someone to talk to you about your feelings.  So great, you’ve got your feeling buddy all id’d and now what to you do.  Do you go up to them and say, hey I need to talk about my feelings, got five minutes, or an hour, cause that’s how long it might take…. Yeah right – you wouldn’t want to approach the situation that way… but here are some simple ways to get a difficult topic started:

– I am feeling uncomfortable about sharing this…

– Is this a good time to talk about something important (this works well with adults – they don’t like to be interupted, unless they think you’re about to share, in which case, most will say yes – or they will say no but they will find time for you later…

– I need to share something that’s bothering me… – this is sure to get someone’s attention

– Sometime I feel so (angry, sad, upset) I don’t know what to do. Can you give me some advice?  (trust me, just about anyone will LOVE to give you advice, especially if you ask for it…)

So guess what the hardest part of this touchy feely talk is?  You guessed it – – getting started.  So just try.  Remember adults are all serious anyway and will respect that you’re trying to sound grown up – instead of running into someone’s office, house, kitchen all bawling, or sulking or generally behaving like they think a kid is supposed to.

So good luck with your feelings – check out our other posts on How to Deal to have all your questions answered….

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What are You Feeling?

Dealing with Tween Emotions
Dealing with Tween Emotions

Hey GirlMoguls – it’s Daisy here and I am back with my whole experiment on this feeling thing.  In my last post I wrote about keeping a feelings journal – either your own private notebook on your computer to help you learn how to deal with your moods  — like how to identify how different situations make you feel – including the ones that make your feel good and the ones that make you feel, well not so good.  I mean sometimes it seems like life is more full of downs than ups.

But when I started to think about all the different things that happen and writing about how they make me feel, I realized that there are just as many ups too.  I mean, sometimes, just hanging with the girls at the library, talking and working makes me feel pretty happy.   It’s not like I had to ace a test of win the Xeron Raiders virtual championship to feel good about myself.

Of course sometimes, you may be so down that you can’t see the up side.  In that case, just writing about your feelings might seem like you’re throwing a pity party for one – ouch.  So it can be better to actually talk to someone about how you feel.  But just like when you started to write them down – you wanted to make sure they stayed private, you’ll want to pick a good person to talk to.  And sometimes, well it just can’t be your friends.  You might need a more objective view – someone with a bit of distance and by that I mean older….and not always your parents…because c’mon you’re likely gonna have some “feeling’ about them…

Luckily the GirlMoguls have Abby who’s like a super cool big sister without being, well part of the family (and all judgy and worried about mom or dad).  Maybe you know someone like that too – someone older, but not too old, someone trustworthy you could talk to.  If not, here are a few tips for finding someone cool enough to talk to.

  • Who has given me support in the past
  • Who’s good at giving advice
  • Who do I feel comfortable sharing my feelings with?
  • Who do I trust with my innermost thoughts?
  • Who is sensitive and kind
  • Who really listens to me
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