Building Self-Esteem in Children

Like any mom, you only want the best for your child.   By building self-esteem in your children.  Sometimes this is easier said than done.  The following tips will help you develop self-esteem in children, so they can have a rich and fulfilling life.

Tip 1:  Be Confident Yourself. Show your children you are a confident person in a variety of situations.     Show your tweens that it’s important to try new things, even if you don’t always succeed.  When they see you being confident in your abilities, no matter the outcome, that postitive attitude will boost their self-esteem.

Tip 2: Develop Your Child’s Sense  Responsibility – Another good way to build self-esteem in children is to give them some age-appropriate tasks they are responsible for on a regular basis.  Create routines in which they are regularly asked to perform these tasks. By asking your children to perform chores , they will recognize and appreciate your confidence in their growing abilities and your trust in them will build their esteem.

Tip 3: Spread the Praise Around- Tweens need as much praise as younger children.  However you need to be more selective in how you do it.  Praising every little thing your child does can give them the feeling they can do no wrong.    Instead, praise their passing skills or another specific aspect of their performance.  This way they can take pride in their own achievements and realize that doing their best is more important than just winning or losing.   This will allow them to better handle the inevitable disappointments  that are a natural part of life.

Tip 4: Listen Up – Listen to your children.  This is especially important as your children become tweens.  By listening you show your children that what they have to say matters and is important.   You may have to listen to a lot of  chatter before they really start opening, but it will be worth it.  Eventually they will learn its ok to express their emotions, frustrations and fears to you.  Support them, empathize, but also don’t be afraid to correct them when they’re wrong.

These suggestions for building self-esteem in children will be the starting point of a whole new relationship with your tween.

Preventing Your Tween from Being a Cyberbully Victim

In recent years as more and more kids go online, the incidence of cyberbullying has also spiked. Cyberbullying is not something to be taken lightly and even younger kids are experiencing situations of cyberbullyng.   It is important to discuss the issue with your tween to increase awareness of the issue.

Cyberbullying occurs when a child bullies another kid in an online venue. While the bullying is not taking place in person, it is still a very serious issue. Teens that use the internet to cyberbully traditionally target their peers and smear their names or issue threats. Cyberbullying is not typically a one time occurrence; it is an ongoing issue that will continue until the matter is addressed, either by authority figures or by the tween themselves.

Victims of cyberbullying usually become self-conscious or withdraw into themselves. Acceptance is what every child wants, especially from their peers. When a kid  is bullied instead, whether online or off, they can become very depressed and even express signs of self-hatred.

It is important, as a parent, to be aware of any changes in your tween’s  attitude or behavior as these can be early warning signs that something is not quite right. Addressing the issue head-on can be beneficial for both of you. Lack of parental support can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, along with depression.

Quote of the Day – Attitude

"Attitude will take you furhter than talent." Various

How true this. And how important to teach our daughters.  We teach our girls that practice makes perfect, study hard, and make sure to cross all the t’s and i’s.  Women are very talented at many things – it makes us great support people.  But do we ever give any thought to how we do our work – with a smile, or a grim determination.  Do we let dark thoughts intrude upon our work and plans and derail us?  Sure we do – and that’s why we should think almost as much about how we’re doing something as we do to how well we’re doing it.

A smile goes a long way -like for a boss who notices that the "difficult" project was completed – not without a fuss – but with a can do attitude.  Just remember, DON’T forget to toot your own horn.  A positive attitude means no complaining, not no self-promotion.

So good luck – and have a wonderful day.

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