Tween Advice – Is Being the Popular Girl All it’s Cracked Up to Be?

Tween Friend Advice
Tween Friend Advice

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Rose and as back to school time rolls around, you’re probably thinking about, well going back to school. Maybe it’s no big deal to you, or maybe you’re really excited thinking about all the stuff you’re going to learn…or maybe you’re trying to figure out your social strategy?

Huh, social strategy – what’s that? You know what I’m talking about – are you vowing that this is the year you become a popular girl – no matter what? After all you’ve seen girls break into the cool kids club before – and now you want your turn right?

I mean there are some totally awesome benes that go with being cool, like lots of friends, always having boys interested in you, never having to worry about who you’re going to sit at with lunch. Of course the cool girls aren’t really your usual crowd, so it might take some work to become part of it, but it has to be totally worth it?
Well before you decide on your campaign to become part of the cool gang, you need to stop and think about whether it’s really worth it.
There are some bad things about being popular — like maybe having to not be friends with all the girls you used to hang with. Or being the target of rumors just because your popular, or always having to worry about what you say, in case it’s judged as “uncool.” Or having to be mean, just to be popular.
Betcha you didn’t think of all of those things. I mean, even though I was pretty popular at my old school, I never tried to be mean about it – but sometimes I did feel like I couldn’t say what was really on my mind because someone might think it was lame or make fun of me. Now with the other GirlMoguls I feel like I can say whatever I want – and even though they might make fun of me, they won’t think I’m not cool.
Sometimes having real friends is better than striving to be part of the “cool crowd!” So just make sure your social strategy includes being true to your real friends.

GirlMogul Rose
GirlMogul Rose

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How to Deal – Feuding Friends

BFF"s Fighting? What to do...
BFF"s Fighting? What to do...

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Lily here.  Today I thought I’d talk about BFFs.  Of course, me and the other GirlMoguls are as tight as can be, but sometimes, you know, you and your group of BFFs can just, well, get into fights.  What happens when you’re formerly super tight group all of a sudden seems like its unraveling?

It can get really weird if you’re caught in the middle – like when two of them won’t talk to each other and they want your to take sides, or act as a go-between.  Well, you’ll totally need to evaluate the sitch and see what you should do.

So first of all, are your friends being polite to each other, but just not clicking?  Well then it could be that one of them has developed some new interests.  That’s ok – it may be that you can be friends with each of them separately, but that they’re just not right for each other.

Of course, what if the opposite is true – these girls are being truly nasty to one another!  Then you need to decide if the fight is over something silly – and if they’re being silly, or if it’s over something really serious…

Well, if it’s something silly, like a simple misunderstanding or someone was crabby one day and said something snarky, then maybe you can help – explain each other’s point of view and encourage them to apologize to one another.

If they won’t and force you to take sides, then it’s ok for your to back off.   Yup – take a break from these feuding meanies and reclaim your neutral status.  Be as polite as you can and never ever stoop to the level of badmouthing.  Sooner, rather than later, your friends will realize how silly they are and will work things out – and you’ll all be friends again.

Next time we’ll talk about what to do when the whole fight is over something a little more serious…and how to handle that too!

Later, Lils…

GirlMogul Lily
GirlMogul Lily

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