Building Self-Esteem in Children

Like any mom, you only want the best for your child.   By building self-esteem in your children.  Sometimes this is easier said than done.  The following tips will help you develop self-esteem in children, so they can have a rich and fulfilling life.

Tip 1:  Be Confident Yourself. Show your children you are a confident person in a variety of situations.     Show your tweens that it’s important to try new things, even if you don’t always succeed.  When they see you being confident in your abilities, no matter the outcome, that postitive attitude will boost their self-esteem.

Tip 2: Develop Your Child’s Sense  Responsibility – Another good way to build self-esteem in children is to give them some age-appropriate tasks they are responsible for on a regular basis.  Create routines in which they are regularly asked to perform these tasks. By asking your children to perform chores , they will recognize and appreciate your confidence in their growing abilities and your trust in them will build their esteem.

Tip 3: Spread the Praise Around- Tweens need as much praise as younger children.  However you need to be more selective in how you do it.  Praising every little thing your child does can give them the feeling they can do no wrong.    Instead, praise their passing skills or another specific aspect of their performance.  This way they can take pride in their own achievements and realize that doing their best is more important than just winning or losing.   This will allow them to better handle the inevitable disappointments  that are a natural part of life.

Tip 4: Listen Up – Listen to your children.  This is especially important as your children become tweens.  By listening you show your children that what they have to say matters and is important.   You may have to listen to a lot of  chatter before they really start opening, but it will be worth it.  Eventually they will learn its ok to express their emotions, frustrations and fears to you.  Support them, empathize, but also don’t be afraid to correct them when they’re wrong.

These suggestions for building self-esteem in children will be the starting point of a whole new relationship with your tween.

Saving On Back To School Clothes Shopping For Tweens

Save on Back to School Clothes for Tweens
Save on Back to School Clothes for Tweens

It’s back to school clothes shopping time. And that means most tweens are eager to hit the mall to check out and buy the latest styles.  You however have a budget to stick to.  So how can you save on clothes shopping this year?  Follow these tips for a budget friendly back to school shopping spree.

  • Go Second Hand – Don’t be afraid to check out thrift shops and consignment stores, especially ones that specialize in children’s clothing.  You will be surprised at the quality of clothes and you may even find things with the original price check on it.  While this season’s latest styles may not be there, you might find some great deals on classics like jean jackets, coats and sweaters.
  • Love those Hand Me Downs – Don’t limit yourself to the kids in your family.  Create a network of friends with slightly older (or bigger) kids who would be willing to pass along last year’s styles.  This way you’ll get gently used clothes that aren’t too out of date.
  • Go Virtual – Use the internet to bargain shop.  If your tween finds a must have item in a magazine or a store, go online and try to locate it on sale or with some other incentives, like BOGO (by one, get one free).
  • Basics Stock Up – Just like you wouldn’t pass up a great deal at the grocery store, keep an eye out for a chance to stock up on basic wardrobe items like tees, tanks and stocks.  You may find these throughout the year, or at end of season sales.  This way you will have the simple items covered and you can  allocate your clothing budget for more of the items your children really want.

The fall means back to school clothing shopping time.  By following these tips above, you can be sure your budget will stretch a lot farther.

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