Building Self-Esteem in Children

Like any mom, you only want the best for your child.   By building self-esteem in your children.  Sometimes this is easier said than done.  The following tips will help you develop self-esteem in children, so they can have a rich and fulfilling life.

Tip 1:  Be Confident Yourself. Show your children you are a confident person in a variety of situations.     Show your tweens that it’s important to try new things, even if you don’t always succeed.  When they see you being confident in your abilities, no matter the outcome, that postitive attitude will boost their self-esteem.

Tip 2: Develop Your Child’s Sense  Responsibility – Another good way to build self-esteem in children is to give them some age-appropriate tasks they are responsible for on a regular basis.  Create routines in which they are regularly asked to perform these tasks. By asking your children to perform chores , they will recognize and appreciate your confidence in their growing abilities and your trust in them will build their esteem.

Tip 3: Spread the Praise Around- Tweens need as much praise as younger children.  However you need to be more selective in how you do it.  Praising every little thing your child does can give them the feeling they can do no wrong.    Instead, praise their passing skills or another specific aspect of their performance.  This way they can take pride in their own achievements and realize that doing their best is more important than just winning or losing.   This will allow them to better handle the inevitable disappointments  that are a natural part of life.

Tip 4: Listen Up – Listen to your children.  This is especially important as your children become tweens.  By listening you show your children that what they have to say matters and is important.   You may have to listen to a lot of  chatter before they really start opening, but it will be worth it.  Eventually they will learn its ok to express their emotions, frustrations and fears to you.  Support them, empathize, but also don’t be afraid to correct them when they’re wrong.

These suggestions for building self-esteem in children will be the starting point of a whole new relationship with your tween.

How to Make Friends – Don’t be Shy Look People in the Eye

How to Make Friends
How to Make Friends

Hey GirlMoguls – it’s back to school time and maybe you’re starting a new school – maybe you’ll be going with a group of new friends, or maybe you’re going to walk into class that very first day solo and you’re sweating it – just how are you going to make friends?  Are you worried you’re too shy?  Here are some great tips on how to be friendly:

  1. Don’t stress being shy – after all, everyone, even the most outgoing person, feels shy at times.  All you need to make friends is to get your confidence on  – and you don’t need to show up – just try a simple smile and hello to the kids in your class.  Once you get that down – and get a few smiles and hellos in return your can go for the next step
  2. Strike Up a Conversation – it doesn’t have to be a long one.  You could even script it out in front of your mirror at home.  You could compliment someone’s outfit or accessory, or maybe commiserate about the killer English homework.  A small conversation starter might lead to a longer talk
  3. Get Involved – If you want to make friends, but aren’t sure where to start, consider joining an after school club or class where you’re working on something that interests you – and all the other kids in the club.  It’s a lot easier to bond when you already share some common interests – like saving the whales or drawing comics
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Fat Cat Book Club: Part 4

Finally we have some answers people! With the last part of the book completed, we can talk openly, spoilers included, about what just went down in Cat’s life. And let’s just Chapter 62, where we last left off. I’m very happy that cat ended things off with nick. Yes, she did follow her desires for a while because it was something new she had not experienced before. But, she was smart about it in the end. She knew that in order to proceed physically with a boy, she had to be in a relationship with him. It really doesn’t make sense to just have that physical relationship, because Nick didn’t care about Cat when she was overweight, so he really didn’t care about her as a person. She even points that he really knew nothing about her.

Fat Cat Book
Fat Cat Book

Let’s move on to the science project.  It seems like in the end, Cat’s experiment really did come together. Her Phase II about the guys may not have ended up as she though, but Jordan’s idea of humans reacting to negative and positive stimuli did lead her to applicable conclusions. She had it together; she even started swimming again, which built up muscle and confidence for Cat. I was happy for her; even though in the end, she didn’t win first. At that point, though, it didn’t even matter! I’m glad that the author recognized that Cat became a new person with new goals, and winning wasn’t necessary anymore. She accomplished so much for herself that just doing those things was winning.

Okay, okay, I know you are just bursting to discuss Mr. Matt McKinney. So, let’s get to it! I was let down just a little bit when I found out what Matt had said. I know it was really hurtful to Cat, but at the same time, he was talking to a bully from the 7th grade. I can understand how he was being stupid and pressured by an intimidating peer. I feel like 4 years may have been a little too long and a little too harsh to ignore Matt on Cat’s part. Nevertheless, the ending was just perfect! I love the fact that they ended up together, Best of all, they did in a realistic way. There wasn’t just one meeting where everyone apologized. Instead, they went through a lot of arguing, just like people in real life would do. Overall, I was really satisfied with the ending. Check out my last post to see discussion questions you talk about with your friends, and make sure you let me know what you though of the book!

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