Keeping Secrets – Part Deux

Should You Tell Your Friend's Secrets?
Should You Tell Your Friend's Secrets?

Hey GirlMoguls it’s Rose here. In my last post I talked about how secrets can be good for a friendship – if you have a BFF that you can totally trust to keep a secret that can be a lifesaver.  But sometimes, what if you hear a secret and you’ve just gotta tell someone?

Well here’s what you do – first of all, ask yourself why you feel the need to tell the secret.  Do you think if you tell your friend’s secret to someone else, it will help you fit in with the cool crowd?  I mean being a Gossip Queen for a day is a sure way to raise your cool cred, but it’s not cool to do that to your friend.  So keep a lid on it.

But what if your friend tells you she’s been chatting on the Internet with an older guy and is planning to meet him at the mall.  Nothing you say can change her mind, but your creepy meter is way up.  She’s sworn you to secrecy but you’re seriously  worried about her.  Well this may be the time to tell – for her own safety – tell your parents, a teacher or a guidance counselor and get her some help fast!

TMI – so in the interests of friendship, do you need to tell your friends every little thing?  No way – there may be some things you want to keep to yourself – but still want to talk about them.  Well, I’m a big fan of using my journal for this.  I use it to make my to do lists, and to write about things that are bothering me that I don’t feel about sharing.  Sometimes even writing about a bad situation will help you feel better.  I mean in your journal you could totally blab about the fact that you hate your friend’s new haircut – and neither she, nor anyone else will ever know.  Just be sure to keep your diary in a safe place so if doesn’t fall into curious hands…

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Should You Be Keeping Secrets?

Miley Keeps them, But Should You?
Miley Keeps them, But Should You?

Hey Girls, it Rose here.  I was just thinking about old Hannah’s diary and the really big secret she was forced to keep and it got me thinking about whether keeping secrets is a bad thing.  You know the sitch.  It’s late at night at the sleepover and only you and your friend are still up.  She turns to you and says, I have something to tell you. Your eyes light up ‘cause you know it’s gonna be something good, otherwise, she would have told everyone in broad daylight.   But can you keep a secret – or should you?  I mean what if the secret is a big deal and you feel like your friend is in danger?  Or what if something really embarrassing happened to you and you’re dying to tell someone about it – but how can you be sure the whole school won’t hear about it?

Well, when someone shares a secret with you, you can feel pretty special – after all – you’ve really earned her trust.  And now you might be more willing to tell her one of your secrets.  And you’ll find that sharing makes you two grow closer.   But you need to be careful… When sharing secrets, start small, like maybe admitting how you really want to write a book someday, not about the fact that your parents are fighting all the time and you think they might be getting a divorce.  After your sure that your BFF can keep a secret you can share bigger ones.

But how can you be sure that your secret is leak proof – after all, once you tell someone a secret, it’s really no longer a secret.  Well you’ve gotta to make sure she knows it’s a secret.  If she doesn’t know for sure and word gets out – can you truly blame her for spilling the beans?  But if you told her something is secret and someone the whole world knows about it, well you might want find someone else to share secrets with…

And don’t forget you have to be a good secret keeper too – if you aren’t good at keeping secrets, well then people won’t take your secrets seriously.  Or they’ll stop telling you them totally – and you may ruin your friendships…

But what if you feel you HAVE to spill someone else’s secret.  Stay tuned for what to do when it’s time to spill the beans.

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Quote of the Day – Write it Out

“Oh, so many things bubble up inside me… That’s why in the end I always come back to my diary. That is where I start and finish.”

Anne Frank – diarist

keeping a journal can help your feelings
keeping a journal can help your feelings

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Rose again.  Today we’re going to look at quotes about keeping a journal – as you know I’m a writer and I’ve always kept a diary ever since I could remember.  Well more than one, it seems like I am always filling them up and finding a new cute one to start fresh.

I picked this quote because that’s how I feel too.  I use my journal to help collect the bubbles.  I mean growing up is hard to do – so many things seem to happen, between friends, and school and family.  And then there are my emotions…It seems like I am having a new one every day.  So when things get really bad, I just turn to my journal and write about it.  Sometimes I write a few lines, and sometimes I write for pages – but whatever it is, afterwards, I always feel better.  And if I had a problem, usually I have figure out a way to solve it – just by writing about.

So if you want to start your own journal – you don’t need anything fancy – a simple notebook, even a marble composition book will do – you can decorate it with stickers or some wrapping paper or magic markers.  You can write in pen or paper, whatever.  You can write every day or once a week, or only when you need to.  You can keep your journal with you wherever you go, or you can keep it safe at home.  You can re-read your entries or never look at them again.  And remember they’re for your eyes only –so you can be honest, you can make spelling mistakes, you can even try writing in code.  Just start writing and you’ll see how much better you feel.

GirlMogul Rose
GirlMogul Rose

 

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