Building Self-Esteem in Children

Like any mom, you only want the best for your child.   By building self-esteem in your children.  Sometimes this is easier said than done.  The following tips will help you develop self-esteem in children, so they can have a rich and fulfilling life.

Tip 1:  Be Confident Yourself. Show your children you are a confident person in a variety of situations.     Show your tweens that it’s important to try new things, even if you don’t always succeed.  When they see you being confident in your abilities, no matter the outcome, that postitive attitude will boost their self-esteem.

Tip 2: Develop Your Child’s Sense  Responsibility – Another good way to build self-esteem in children is to give them some age-appropriate tasks they are responsible for on a regular basis.  Create routines in which they are regularly asked to perform these tasks. By asking your children to perform chores , they will recognize and appreciate your confidence in their growing abilities and your trust in them will build their esteem.

Tip 3: Spread the Praise Around- Tweens need as much praise as younger children.  However you need to be more selective in how you do it.  Praising every little thing your child does can give them the feeling they can do no wrong.    Instead, praise their passing skills or another specific aspect of their performance.  This way they can take pride in their own achievements and realize that doing their best is more important than just winning or losing.   This will allow them to better handle the inevitable disappointments  that are a natural part of life.

Tip 4: Listen Up – Listen to your children.  This is especially important as your children become tweens.  By listening you show your children that what they have to say matters and is important.   You may have to listen to a lot of  chatter before they really start opening, but it will be worth it.  Eventually they will learn its ok to express their emotions, frustrations and fears to you.  Support them, empathize, but also don’t be afraid to correct them when they’re wrong.

These suggestions for building self-esteem in children will be the starting point of a whole new relationship with your tween.

Quote of the Day – Write it Out

“Oh, so many things bubble up inside me… That’s why in the end I always come back to my diary. That is where I start and finish.”

Anne Frank – diarist

keeping a journal can help your feelings
keeping a journal can help your feelings

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Rose again.  Today we’re going to look at quotes about keeping a journal – as you know I’m a writer and I’ve always kept a diary ever since I could remember.  Well more than one, it seems like I am always filling them up and finding a new cute one to start fresh.

I picked this quote because that’s how I feel too.  I use my journal to help collect the bubbles.  I mean growing up is hard to do – so many things seem to happen, between friends, and school and family.  And then there are my emotions…It seems like I am having a new one every day.  So when things get really bad, I just turn to my journal and write about it.  Sometimes I write a few lines, and sometimes I write for pages – but whatever it is, afterwards, I always feel better.  And if I had a problem, usually I have figure out a way to solve it – just by writing about.

So if you want to start your own journal – you don’t need anything fancy – a simple notebook, even a marble composition book will do – you can decorate it with stickers or some wrapping paper or magic markers.  You can write in pen or paper, whatever.  You can write every day or once a week, or only when you need to.  You can keep your journal with you wherever you go, or you can keep it safe at home.  You can re-read your entries or never look at them again.  And remember they’re for your eyes only –so you can be honest, you can make spelling mistakes, you can even try writing in code.  Just start writing and you’ll see how much better you feel.

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What are You Feeling?

Dealing with Tween Emotions
Dealing with Tween Emotions

Hey GirlMoguls – it’s Daisy here and I am back with my whole experiment on this feeling thing.  In my last post I wrote about keeping a feelings journal – either your own private notebook on your computer to help you learn how to deal with your moods  — like how to identify how different situations make you feel – including the ones that make your feel good and the ones that make you feel, well not so good.  I mean sometimes it seems like life is more full of downs than ups.

But when I started to think about all the different things that happen and writing about how they make me feel, I realized that there are just as many ups too.  I mean, sometimes, just hanging with the girls at the library, talking and working makes me feel pretty happy.   It’s not like I had to ace a test of win the Xeron Raiders virtual championship to feel good about myself.

Of course sometimes, you may be so down that you can’t see the up side.  In that case, just writing about your feelings might seem like you’re throwing a pity party for one – ouch.  So it can be better to actually talk to someone about how you feel.  But just like when you started to write them down – you wanted to make sure they stayed private, you’ll want to pick a good person to talk to.  And sometimes, well it just can’t be your friends.  You might need a more objective view – someone with a bit of distance and by that I mean older….and not always your parents…because c’mon you’re likely gonna have some “feeling’ about them…

Luckily the GirlMoguls have Abby who’s like a super cool big sister without being, well part of the family (and all judgy and worried about mom or dad).  Maybe you know someone like that too – someone older, but not too old, someone trustworthy you could talk to.  If not, here are a few tips for finding someone cool enough to talk to.

  • Who has given me support in the past
  • Who’s good at giving advice
  • Who do I feel comfortable sharing my feelings with?
  • Who do I trust with my innermost thoughts?
  • Who is sensitive and kind
  • Who really listens to me
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Fat Cat Book Club Part 3

fatcat bookOkay, girls, can I just say “Whoa!” I was definitely NOT expecting Cat’s love life to take off the way it did. Just to make sure I’m not spoiling any plot points for you, make sure that you’ve about ¾ of this novel, up to Chapter 61 (that’s page 231). Now that we’re on the same page, no pun intended, let’s talk about some good stuff. Greg, then Nick? What is Cat thinking? I imagine she must be feeling so many emotions. For the first time, she is actually going on just hormonal emotional instead of her usual rational logic. That must be crazy for her!

I’m glad that Cat dumped Greg, though. You could totally tell that he was not as intelligent, and couldn’t keep up with Cat’s fast-paced brains. She’s smart and witty, and he was just not with it. Nick, on the other hand, is super smart. But, he’s such a flirt. From the rumors and stories, we know he gets around with a ton of girls over the summer, even if he may not during the school year. He doesn’t seem like the guy Cat should ideally be with, because he is only interested in her physically. I really hope she makes the right moves with him, and by that I mean no moves.

I’m really glad that Cat is cooking again. I would love to be Amanda! I mean, getting gourmet food and a best friend? What more could a girl ask for? Plus, that food, despite being super healthy, also sounds upper delicious. I’m actually considering looking up some of those recipes and trying them. If you do, please comment and let me know how they turn out!

Anyway, I’m really curious how this so-called Phase II of Cat’s experiment will turn out. My questions from this part of the novel are:

What effect will Phase II have on Cat’s experiment? Will her lifestyle changes and changes in appearance really make that big of a difference on the dynamics of her relationships?

Will Cat FINALLY see herself in the mirror, with Amanda’s help?

What will happen between Matt and Cat? Will ever find out what happened between them, because Matt doesn’t seem to know either!

GirlMogul Poppy
GirlMogul Poppy

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