by Dee Delacher

tween-girls-self-esteemHey, Girl Moguls!  Have you ever done something that you really didn’t want to do just because your friends wanted you to?  I sure have.  In fact, I want to share a story with you from when I was eight years old:

My face was getting hotter by the minute.  My friends were totally staring at me.  They expected me to lie so that the girls’ team would win the math competition in class.

My teacher was staring at me too.  He was waiting for me to report my score.

And inside I was battling between doing what was right or making my friends happy.  I opened my mouth and out came a score of 85%, a score slightly higher than the 80% that was screaming back at me.

As my teacher declared the girls the winner, I was mobbed with high-fives and hugs.  Meanwhile, the boys, particularly the one who had corrected my paper, shouted out in opposition.

“She cheated!” I heard them accuse.

My face turned a crimson shade of red as I slid further down in my seat.  My one second of glory in the eyes of my friends had turned into disappointment in the eyes of my teacher, and would soon turn into a harsh punishment from my parents.

I was only in third grade and I was already choosing paths that were going against what my parents had taught me.  I questioned who my friends really were and why lying made them like me more.  How could I stay true to myself and still surround myself with the friends that I so wanted?

That is where this cool program called Girls on the Run comes in.  It is a program for girls eight to thirteen and it was started by a woman who struggled with her changing body and these same dilemmas that she calls “Girl-Box” issues.

We have all dealt with them; whether it be starving ourselves to be “skinny” in the eyes of our peers, trying something because our friends want us to, or even telling a little white lie to our parents in order to do something we know is wrong.  Anytime we do things that we don’t want to do in order to please others, we are stepping into the “Girl-Box” and we lose a piece of our own identity.

Molly Barker, the founder of Girls on the Run, was losing pieces of herself and started running in order to deal with the stresses of being a teenage girl.  Running made her feel beautiful and powerful and allowed her to shatter that box that surrounded her.  She decided that she was going to start a program that would help create a world where girls would never have to climb out of the box and could live peacefully and happily simply being themselves.

Wouldn’t it be fun to get together with a bunch of girls who are all looking for a way out of the box, or better yet, a way to stay out of the box completely?  Girls on the Run is that place.

It is a 12-week program that combines training for a 5k run with self-esteem building lessons.  Each week you will meet with your volunteer coaches and team and will complete various activities that correspond to weekly topics and goals.  There is even a question and answer time where you can get some answers and tips that could help you with problems you are having in school or at home.

Most girls finish the program with the tools to help them stay out of the box by giving them a stronger sense of identity, a greater acceptance of themselves, a healthier body image, and a greater understanding of what it means to be part of a team.

Girls on the Run programs start up in the spring and you can find one in most states.  Just go to to see if there is a program near you.  If not, ask your parent, teacher, or mentor to start one up at your school.  So go find a program and lace-up, so you, too, can stay out of the box!


Dee Delacher is a writer and mother who is passionate about Girls on the Run – and igniting some girl power.

Halloween Tween Craft – Fashionista Kitty Purse

Hey GirlMoguls – Here’s a great Halloween Craft from our friends at – a site filled with awesome fun (and cheap) crafts for you to do!
Fashionista Kitty Purse

Ruby’s Tool Kit: stuffed Halloween kitten purse, plastic purse pouch, safety pins

Tween Halloween Purse
Tween Halloween Purse
1. Repurpose a stuffed kitten pillow or any Halloween themed pillow that will make for the perfect accessory.
2. Attach a plastic coin purse to the back from inside the coin purse with safety pins so they are hidden.
3. Use a colored plastic coin purse that blends. This Halloween kitten purse is purrrrrrrfect to hold your lipgloss and money!

Should You Take Back Your BFF?

Should Your Forgive Your Best Friend?
Should Your Forgive Your Best Friend?

Hey Girls – it’s GirlMogul Lily here with more BFF advice.   It seems as we go through school, friend stuff gets more and more complicated.  I mean, like wouldn’t it be easier if you could just know that you could always count on your friends.  I mean with the other GirlMoguls, I feel like they have my back, but I remember last year something totally uncool happened between me and my friend Mina.  Mina and I have been friends since like forever.  We totally met in baby gymnastics and it seemed like we were inseparable since.  We even went to the same school too, but that’s when the trouble began…

Last fall, when we started school, all of a sudden it seemed like Mina couldn’t stop talking about this girl Penny.  She and Penny had met at the pool club over the summer – while I was at camp, and they had hung out and really hit off.  At first I was happy for Mina – I mean I was glad she wasn’t moping around all summer.  But I was worried.  Penny is one of those girls – totally popular and always surrounded by a group of friends – totally not the nicest girls either if you know what I mean.

I was afraid that once we got back to school and Penny was surrounded by all her old cronies she would drop Mina like that.  I was all prepared to offer a sympathetic shoulder to cry on, but the total opposite happened.

It seemed like Penny and Mina were totally inseparable!  And now Mina was part of Penny’s clique.  And I was the one left wondering where I was going to sit and lunch.  Then Mina began avoiding me out of school. One time I caught her breaking plans to go to the mall with me to go over and have “spa-cials” at Penny’s house.  Ooooo – I was so mad.

And then it turned out that Penny was saying mean things about me – calling me desperate and a hanger on, and a goody-two shoes.  Instead of defending me, Mina laughed right along with everyone else.  Boy did that really burn me up.  So what did I do?  Ok so,  I went home and had a really good cry.  I rallied.  I called one of my other friends and asked her to go kick the soccer ball with me.  And I kept my distance from Mina.  But I kept my mouth shut.  And before long, I was making new friends and having a great time.  Sure I missed Mina, but I wasn’t moping around – or trying to make her hang out with me…

But you’ll never guess what happened….to be continued….Check out Part II here

GirlMogul Lily
GirlMogul Lily

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How to Deal – Feuding Friends

BFF"s Fighting? What to do...
BFF"s Fighting? What to do...

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Lily here.  Today I thought I’d talk about BFFs.  Of course, me and the other GirlMoguls are as tight as can be, but sometimes, you know, you and your group of BFFs can just, well, get into fights.  What happens when you’re formerly super tight group all of a sudden seems like its unraveling?

It can get really weird if you’re caught in the middle – like when two of them won’t talk to each other and they want your to take sides, or act as a go-between.  Well, you’ll totally need to evaluate the sitch and see what you should do.

So first of all, are your friends being polite to each other, but just not clicking?  Well then it could be that one of them has developed some new interests.  That’s ok – it may be that you can be friends with each of them separately, but that they’re just not right for each other.

Of course, what if the opposite is true – these girls are being truly nasty to one another!  Then you need to decide if the fight is over something silly – and if they’re being silly, or if it’s over something really serious…

Well, if it’s something silly, like a simple misunderstanding or someone was crabby one day and said something snarky, then maybe you can help – explain each other’s point of view and encourage them to apologize to one another.

If they won’t and force you to take sides, then it’s ok for your to back off.   Yup – take a break from these feuding meanies and reclaim your neutral status.  Be as polite as you can and never ever stoop to the level of badmouthing.  Sooner, rather than later, your friends will realize how silly they are and will work things out – and you’ll all be friends again.

Next time we’ll talk about what to do when the whole fight is over something a little more serious…and how to handle that too!

Later, Lils…

GirlMogul Lily
GirlMogul Lily

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