Happiness Tips For Moms – From Life and Success Coach Karen Elizaga of Forward Options
A moment of gratitude for you mothers out there who are pulled in a million different directions! I think there is no harder job than that of a mother. You work tireless hours, you don’t get paid for those hours, and the moments of gratitude from those around you (your husband and your kids) are few and far between. Come on, you’re supposed to know that they love and appreciate you, right? Hmmm.
Well, let’s take some time to think about how you can take control of your own happiness and fulfillment. If you don’t, who will?
Here are five tips for your deep satisfaction, contentment and balance in your life:
1 – Make the first choice a loving, happy one. Sure, you could start your day overwhelmed by all that you have to do. You could get bogged down with what you haven’t achieved. But how about starting your day with a positive thought of gratitude to set yourself up for a happy and fulfilled day. Instead of thinking about what a chore it is to do all the things you have to do, shift the filter that you see your day in. “I am so happy and fortunate that I get to spend my day taking care of my family.”
2 – Take time for yourself – first! There is not a mom out there who won’t be happier, more patient or more understanding if she takes time to indulge in the things that she enjoys before tending to the needs of others. I know it sounds selfish, but it’s not! Think of it as filling your own gas tank before driving your kids to school. You need a full tank, otherwise you won’t get there! Love yourself (really, think about what it is that is uniquely loveable about you). Exercise. Meditate. Have that slow cup of tea. Take a long, hot shower. Shop for yourself. Do the work that you want to do.
3 – Enlist support from others. There’s no rulebook that says you need to approach mothering and working all on your own. Rely on the people around you to help you get things done! Coordinate afterschool activities and carpool the kids. If you have the resources, hire a babysitter or nanny. Be specific in what you want and need your husband to do. Bottom line, ask for help! No one is going to take the time to think about what you need to get done – the onus is on you to tell them.
4 – Nurture your village. Every mother needs to blow off steam. We also need to be able to understand that our everyday challenges are entirely normal. Make sure you surround yourself with good friends whom you like, love and respect and who are taking on a similar journey to yours. Budget time for regular drinks or tea or lunch so that you can vent and laugh over the stuff that we can otherwise take so seriously.
5 – Be a woman. Don’t forget your feminine self! It’s very easy to get caught up in the routine of running your household and focus purely on checking those tasks off the list. But it’s really important that you don’t forget that you are not only a mother, but a wife or a woman who wants and deserves the kind of attention that makes you feel beautiful. Make time for date night
These five tips, plus eating regularly and nutritiously (organic as much as you can!), will help fuel your happiness and fulfillment everyday! Enjoy!
About Karen Elizaga:
Executive Coach Karen Elizaga and Forward Options Founder, had always wanted to be a lawyer – a decision which led her from her childhood home in Honolulu to Barnard College in New York City, followed by a law degree from American University. By the time she was 27, she had landed a job at an international law firm, worked at innovative companies in London, England and was happily married. Five years later, she was blessed with a beautiful daughter.
But despite her career and personal success, a lifetime of questioning herself and the inescapable conviction that she wasn’t good enough had led Karen into a pattern of self-limiting behavior – where she felt both perpetually dissatisfied with her job, her looks, and her life. And the realization of how destructive this outlook was truly hit home when Karen realized that she was in danger not only of sabotaging her own happiness and success, but of passing on that same mindset to someone else: her daughter.
Realizing that it’s never too late to go in search of personal fulfillment, Karen left the corporate world and got to work simultaneously helping herself and others… by founding a business that encourages others ditch the self-doubt and be their best selves. Beginning as a series of seminars for teen girls and having evolved into executive coaching for women and men, Forward Options was created around the idea that love for the self begets great achievements – giving people the tools to acknowledge their strengths, forgive their faults, and use that confidence to envision a future full of wonderful options.