Hey GirlMoguls – it’s Daisy here and I am back with my whole experiment on this feeling thing. In my last post I wrote about keeping a feelings journal – either your own private notebook on your computer to help you learn how to deal with your moods — like how to identify how different situations make you feel – including the ones that make your feel good and the ones that make you feel, well not so good. I mean sometimes it seems like life is more full of downs than ups.
But when I started to think about all the different things that happen and writing about how they make me feel, I realized that there are just as many ups too. I mean, sometimes, just hanging with the girls at the library, talking and working makes me feel pretty happy. It’s not like I had to ace a test of win the Xeron Raiders virtual championship to feel good about myself.
Of course sometimes, you may be so down that you can’t see the up side. In that case, just writing about your feelings might seem like you’re throwing a pity party for one – ouch. So it can be better to actually talk to someone about how you feel. But just like when you started to write them down – you wanted to make sure they stayed private, you’ll want to pick a good person to talk to. And sometimes, well it just can’t be your friends. You might need a more objective view – someone with a bit of distance and by that I mean older….and not always your parents…because c’mon you’re likely gonna have some “feeling’ about them…
Luckily the GirlMoguls have Abby who’s like a super cool big sister without being, well part of the family (and all judgy and worried about mom or dad). Maybe you know someone like that too – someone older, but not too old, someone trustworthy you could talk to. If not, here are a few tips for finding someone cool enough to talk to.
- Who has given me support in the past
- Who’s good at giving advice
- Who do I feel comfortable sharing my feelings with?
- Who do I trust with my innermost thoughts?
- Who is sensitive and kind
- Who really listens to me
Posted by GirlMogul Daisy