“Life is What Happens to You When You Are Making Other Plans”
– Betty Talmadge
Oh how true that is. Without a plan for our life we wind up being pushed in many different directions. If we don’t have a clear vision of where we want to go, how are we going to get there. Now I am not saying that your life needs to be mapped out like a MapQuest direction list, though if it were, I am pretty certain you would have no trouble getting to where you would want to be.
But we should think consciously about where we would like our life to go, otherwise time goes by and we never get there. Or something happens – a major event that demands our full attention, leaving us no time to plan for ourselves. Or worse yet, our time is cut short.
So how do you plan for your life? You start by thinking and dreaming, asking the big questions…if I could do anything, what would it be…What would a perfect “ordinary” day or “work day” look like? How much money would I have in bank account? How would I spend my money besides the day to day to bills? What would my family look like? What would I look like? How would I feel?
At this point, after answering your questions, you have a vision, a vision of your ideal self. Write it down. Find one part of the vision to work on – whether it’s what you do (or don’t do) for a living, or your bank account, or how you feel. Start with yourself or something you have a lot of control on. If you want a well-organized house, don’t attack the man cave – work on your own area first.
Once you start to change, to be conscious about who you want to be in even one small area, you will find yourself making more conscious, mindful, right decisions for you in other areas. Slowly or quickly your changes will add up – your plan will take shape and you will move towards your plan…Good luck – and in the comments, tell me some of the visions you have for yourself…
Many parents dread back to school time because of fights with their tweens over clothing shopping. Using these simple tips, you can have a stress-free shopping experience.
Tip #1: Look through Your Tweens Current Wardrobe – Go through your kid’s closet and see what’s already in there. Donate or discard items that don’t fit or are worn out and get a sense for what can be worn in the new school year.
Tip #2: Discuss Shopping Strategies – Before you head out to the mall, sit down and talk with your child about what new back to school clothing items are on their must have list and what is on the need list. They will naturally want the coolest new looks, and designer labels, but you may be thinking more about a basic pair of blue jeans.
Tip #3: Make a Shopping List – Make two lists – once of items your tween needs and one of the things she wants. Then allocate your overall budget to the wants vs. the needs. Your tween can pick out her own back to school clothes from her wants, but when her portion of the budget is all used up, it’s gone.
Back to school shopping can be filled with tension between you and your tween, but it doesn’t have to be. Follow these tips above and you can have an easy clothes shopping experience this year.
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It’s back to school clothes shopping time. And that means most tweens are eager to hit the mall to check out and buy the latest styles. You however have a budget to stick to. So how can you save on clothes shopping this year? Follow these tips for a budget friendly back to school shopping spree.
Go Second Hand – Don’t be afraid to check out thrift shops and consignment stores, especially ones that specialize in children’s clothing. You will be surprised at the quality of clothes and you may even find things with the original price check on it. While this season’s latest styles may not be there, you might find some great deals on classics like jean jackets, coats and sweaters.
Love those Hand Me Downs – Don’t limit yourself to the kids in your family. Create a network of friends with slightly older (or bigger) kids who would be willing to pass along last year’s styles. This way you’ll get gently used clothes that aren’t too out of date.
Go Virtual – Use the internet to bargain shop. If your tween finds a must have item in a magazine or a store, go online and try to locate it on sale or with some other incentives, like BOGO (by one, get one free).
Basics Stock Up – Just like you wouldn’t pass up a great deal at the grocery store, keep an eye out for a chance to stock up on basic wardrobe items like tees, tanks and stocks. You may find these throughout the year, or at end of season sales. This way you will have the simple items covered and you can allocate your clothing budget for more of the items your children really want.
The fall means back to school clothing shopping time. By following these tips above, you can be sure your budget will stretch a lot farther.
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