“What a lovely surprise to discover how unlonely being alone can be” Ellen Burstyn
Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Daisy here, with a post in our quote series – today, my theme is about solitude. You know being alone on purpose. It also means no TV, computer, internet or video games. I think some music and books are allowed, but if you really want to go deep into solitude, try just taking a walk in the park without your tunes, or sitting in the backyard or even in your room.
Does it sound like torture? I mean, why would anyone want to be alone. Well to get some peace and quiet, to let your brain really cook. For creative people being alone can really bring on the trippy ideas – or help solve problems (like the time I figured out to fix the creaky arm on my newest robot). Sometimes I just take 15 minutes at the end of the day, sit in my room with some music on low and just let myself zone. It totally balances me out at the end of a crazy day and I am totally ready to get a good night’s rest.
That’s why I picked my quote. When I take a little time for myself, to truly be alone, I really never feel lonely. I feel great, totally comfortable with myself. And I also find I am in a much better mood – and totally able to deal with other people and not um, let my natural snarkiness, I mean impatience come out. I mean Lily can totally tell when I haven’t had enough alone time. And she steers clear until I’ve had my 15 minutes of blissful peaceout.
So go ahead – try being alone – try it for 15 minutes. You can set your timer or your alarm, and I bet you’ll be surprised at how it feels – mean when was the last time you were ever deliberately alone…see what I mean…. You can let me know how it goes in the comments below.
“Figuring Out Who You Are is the whole point of the human
– Anna Quindlen, newspaper columnist, novelist
Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Lily here. I picked the topic of self-awareness for my quote. Self-awareness is when you’re tune with yourself. It means you know what you like about yourself, what your proud of and what’s important to you – like studying for a test, so you can do well, , rather than blowing off school to hang out with your friends – and possibly ruining your chances of going to college.
When you’re aware of what’s important to you, you’re more likely to know how to make the right decision when something comes up – like the aforementioned dilemma above.
Ok, so this pretty much sums it up, right. I mean if you know who you are, you’ll know about what you’re meant to be, you’re purpose. Because I do believe that we all have a purpose. And no, that doean’t mean we’re all destined to be the winners of American Idol. But it does mean we have need to figure out what we’re good at, what we like to do, and work on doing that – and hopefully, help others in the process – even if it means just putting a smile on someone’s face because we went out of our way to smile or being extra nice.
Sometimes though, it seems like everyone is telling us to be the exact opposite of who we are. Like let’s say you’re pretty good at math. You like and it makes sense to you. You also like to explain it to others and you’re the girl everyone comes to with a question about math homework. But then some people start to say math is lame, and only for geeks. And then you get all self-conscious and get worried about being labeled a loser cause you like math. So you stop answering questions in class. You even flub your homework or a big test just to show everyone that you’re not a math geek. Sure, you’re cool again –but how did that really feel?
Bet it didn’t feel so good right – your heart and your brain’s telling you to go forth and multiply (and divide and subtract), but you’re fighting it just to fit in. See you’re not being true to yourself and you can bet that’s going to be stressing you out.
So that’s why figuring out who you are is so important – so you can choose to do what makes you happy – deep down inside, even if it’s not cool. If it feels wrong, it probably isn’t for you. So don’t be afraid – listen to that voice inside of you and figure out who YOU are…