Happiness Tips for Moms

Happiness Tips For Moms – From Life and Success Coach Karen Elizaga of Forward Options

A moment of gratitude for you mothers out there who are pulled in a million different directions! I think there is no harder job than that of a mother. You work tireless hours, you don’t get paid for those hours, and the moments of gratitude from those around you (your husband and your kids) are few and far between. Come on, you’re supposed to know that they love and appreciate you, right? Hmmm.


Well, let’s take some time to think about how you can take control of your own happiness and fulfillment. If you don’t, who will?
Here are five tips for your deep satisfaction, contentment and balance in your life:


1 – Make the first choice a loving, happy one. Sure, you could start your day overwhelmed by all that you have to do. You could get bogged down with what you haven’t achieved. But how about starting your day with a positive thought of gratitude to set yourself up for a happy and fulfilled day. Instead of thinking about what a chore it is to do all the things you have to do, shift the filter that you see your day in. “I am so happy and fortunate that I get to spend my day taking care of my family.”


2 – Take time for yourself – first! There is not a mom out there who won’t be happier, more patient or more understanding if she takes time to indulge in the things that she enjoys before tending to the needs of others. I know it sounds selfish, but it’s not! Think of it as filling your own gas tank before driving your kids to school. You need a full tank, otherwise you won’t get there! Love yourself (really, think about what it is that is uniquely loveable about you). Exercise. Meditate. Have that slow cup of tea. Take a long, hot shower. Shop for yourself. Do the work that you want to do.


3 – Enlist support from others. There’s no rulebook that says you need to approach mothering and working all on your own. Rely on the people around you to help you get things done! Coordinate afterschool activities and carpool the kids. If you have the resources, hire a babysitter or nanny. Be specific in what you want and need your husband to do. Bottom line, ask for help! No one is going to take the time to think about what you need to get done – the onus is on you to tell them.


4 – Nurture your village. Every mother needs to blow off steam. We also need to be able to understand that our everyday challenges are entirely normal. Make sure you surround yourself with good friends whom you like, love and respect and who are taking on a similar journey to yours. Budget time for regular drinks or tea or lunch so that you can vent and laugh over the stuff that we can otherwise take so seriously.


5 – Be a woman. Don’t forget your feminine self! It’s very easy to get caught up in the routine of running your household and focus purely on checking those tasks off the list. But it’s really important that you don’t forget that you are not only a mother, but a wife or a woman who wants and deserves the kind of attention that makes you feel beautiful.    Make time for date night


These five tips, plus eating regularly and nutritiously (organic as much as you can!), will help fuel your happiness and fulfillment everyday! Enjoy!


About Karen Elizaga:

Executive Coach Karen Elizaga and Forward Options Founder, had always wanted to be a lawyer – a decision which led her from her childhood home in Honolulu to Barnard College in New York City, followed by a law degree from American University. By the time she was 27, she had landed a job at an international law firm, worked at innovative companies in London, England and was happily married. Five years later, she was blessed with a beautiful daughter.

But despite her career and personal success, a lifetime of questioning herself and the inescapable conviction that she wasn’t good enough had led Karen into a pattern of self-limiting behavior – where she felt both perpetually dissatisfied with her job, her looks, and her life. And the realization of how destructive this outlook was truly hit home when Karen realized that she was in danger not only of sabotaging her own happiness and success, but of passing on that same mindset to someone else: her daughter.

Realizing that it’s never too late to go in search of personal fulfillment, Karen left the corporate world and got to work simultaneously helping herself and others… by founding a business that encourages others ditch the self-doubt and be their best selves. Beginning as a series of seminars for teen girls and having evolved into executive coaching for women and men, Forward Options was created around the idea that love for the self begets great achievements – giving people the tools to acknowledge their strengths, forgive their faults, and use that confidence to envision a future full of wonderful options.

Moms Like It Mother Tween Contest

Hey Moms Like It fans – welcome to www.girlmogul.com – where tweens can light up their girl power – hope you like the site and that you’ll check out our adventures in our book: Saving Hannah: Or How to Rewrite History.


In the meantime, as promised, we have a little mother-daughter contest going on – maybe you like to share clothes, or maybe you wouldn’t be caught dead sharing a lip gloss let alone an item of clothing…but moms and their daughters definitely influence each other when it comes to fashion – and who doesn’t love a shopping spree?  So we’re going to give you one.

In the comments below, tell us your favorite go to fashionable item- one for the moms, and one for the daughters!  We’ll pick a random pair of winners and give them $50 gift cards to White House | Black Market and Justice!  Have fun!


Back to School Clothing Shopping Tips

Back to School Clothing Shopping
Back to School Clothing Shopping

Many parents dread back to school time because of fights with their tweens over clothing shopping.  Using these simple tips, you can have a stress-free shopping experience.

Tip #1: Look through Your Tweens Current Wardrobe – Go through your kid’s closet and see what’s already in there.  Donate or discard items that don’t fit or are worn out and get a sense for what can be worn in the new school year.

Tip #2:  Discuss Shopping Strategies – Before you head out to the mall, sit down and talk with your child about what new back to school clothing items are on their must have list and what is on the need list.  They will naturally want the coolest new looks, and designer labels, but you may be thinking more about a basic pair of blue jeans.

Tip #3: Make a Shopping List – Make two lists – once of items your tween needs and one of the things she wants.  Then allocate your overall budget to the wants vs. the needs.  Your tween can pick out her own back to school clothes from her wants, but when her portion of the budget is all used up, it’s gone.

Back to school shopping can be filled with tension between you and your tween, but it doesn’t have to be. Follow these tips above and you can have an easy clothes shopping experience this year.

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How To Save Big on Back to School Supplies

Save on back to School Supplies
Save on back to School Supplies

Like most moms are you fearing back to school time because of the expense of school supplies?  Here are some quick tips on saving big money on academic supplies

  • Use the List – most schools and teachers will put out a list of required and suggested supplies for the school year  – you can either download these on the school websites, or find copies in the local stores.  Get this list as soon as possible and map out your spending priorities.  See what you need to buy new and what you can re-use from last year.  Make your “new” shopping list before heading out to the store
  • Stick to the list – Once you have your essential list, make sure you stick to it – just having a list will prevent impulse purchasing but if you go with your tweens, make sure they know they have to stick to the list.  If there is something not on the school supply list that they really want, allow them to purchase it with their own money, or a special back to school stipend.
  • Tax- Free holidays – make use of the fact that many states now have a tax-exempt week just prior to back to school time.  This could mean that many, if not all, of your school supplies will be tax free – and this could save you up to 10% off your total bill.
  • Shop Online – Use the internet to scour for deals at the big retail chains.  You can sign up for e-coupons on school supplies or even find out if there are any free shipping deals – saving you a trip to the store entirely!

With these simple back to school money saving tips, going shopping for school supplies with for your tween can be easy and cost effective.  And soon, you’ll be looking forward to the rumble of school buses in the morning – without the fear of blowing your budget.

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