What’s Fun about Being the New Girl at School

What's Fun About Being the New Girl At School

Hey GirlMoguls – it’s Rose here, and there was a time when I was the new girl, and let me tell it was no fun – all I wanted to do was to be back at my old school, in my old town, with my old friends.  But since New York City is like a million miles away from good ‘ole Weston, my new hood, it was pretty unlikely that I was going to see my new friends anytime soon.  So here I was…the New Girl in town…and if you are too, you can use this 4 part strategy to start your new life…

  1. Keep an open mind – It’s easy to think that the grass was always greener in your old school and home.  You were used to it and life felt good – and comfortable.  You might be inclined to dwell on how it used to be…but that can make you a real drag to be around.  And trust me, if you go about comparing how much cooler your old school was to your new one, umm, pretty much no one will be interested in being friends with you…So before you start your first day, tell yourself that your new school is going to be WAY COOLER than your old one – keep telling yourself this and your mind will believe it – and you’ll be ready for the new adventure.
  2. All the World’s the Stage – as the new girl, people will be wondering what kind of person you are.   And all they’ll have to go on is what you show them. Now I am not talking about a total re-invention here.  But if you have always wanted to be bubbly and outgoing, but really are a bit of a shy girl, well now’s the time to start being bubbly and outgoing.  Smile and say hello, strike up conversations.  After all, no one here knows you were a shy girl at your old school.  Now, don’t try to be someone you’re not – ‘cause that never works for long.  Just picture your best self – and try to be that person during the first few weeks.
  3. Don’t be a wallflower – get out and say hello.  Sometimes being the new girl means that you’ll get a lot of attention and it will be easy to meet new people.   Other times, being the new girls means, well not a whole lot.  So if the kids at your new school aren’t coming up and introducing themselves to you, don’t worry – take the initiative – but don’t try too hard.  Just smile, say hello and try making some short conversations or small talk with the friendliest kids.
  4. Be patient – You don’t find new BFFs overnight – usually.  So be patient and let friendships grow.  Try to be friendly to as many people as possible and get a sense for who they are – it might turn out that the group you wanted to be friends isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.   It might take a while to find your spot – but you will find it – and find out that maybe you belonged there all along.

Tween Advice – Is Being the Popular Girl All it’s Cracked Up to Be?

Tween Friend Advice
Tween Friend Advice

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Rose and as back to school time rolls around, you’re probably thinking about, well going back to school. Maybe it’s no big deal to you, or maybe you’re really excited thinking about all the stuff you’re going to learn…or maybe you’re trying to figure out your social strategy?

Huh, social strategy – what’s that? You know what I’m talking about – are you vowing that this is the year you become a popular girl – no matter what? After all you’ve seen girls break into the cool kids club before – and now you want your turn right?

I mean there are some totally awesome benes that go with being cool, like lots of friends, always having boys interested in you, never having to worry about who you’re going to sit at with lunch. Of course the cool girls aren’t really your usual crowd, so it might take some work to become part of it, but it has to be totally worth it?
Well before you decide on your campaign to become part of the cool gang, you need to stop and think about whether it’s really worth it.
There are some bad things about being popular — like maybe having to not be friends with all the girls you used to hang with. Or being the target of rumors just because your popular, or always having to worry about what you say, in case it’s judged as “uncool.” Or having to be mean, just to be popular.
Betcha you didn’t think of all of those things. I mean, even though I was pretty popular at my old school, I never tried to be mean about it – but sometimes I did feel like I couldn’t say what was really on my mind because someone might think it was lame or make fun of me. Now with the other GirlMoguls I feel like I can say whatever I want – and even though they might make fun of me, they won’t think I’m not cool.
Sometimes having real friends is better than striving to be part of the “cool crowd!” So just make sure your social strategy includes being true to your real friends.

GirlMogul Rose
GirlMogul Rose

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