STAY STRONG THROUGH GIRLS ON THE RUN

by Dee Delacher

tween-girls-self-esteemHey, Girl Moguls!  Have you ever done something that you really didn’t want to do just because your friends wanted you to?  I sure have.  In fact, I want to share a story with you from when I was eight years old:

My face was getting hotter by the minute.  My friends were totally staring at me.  They expected me to lie so that the girls’ team would win the math competition in class.

My teacher was staring at me too.  He was waiting for me to report my score.

And inside I was battling between doing what was right or making my friends happy.  I opened my mouth and out came a score of 85%, a score slightly higher than the 80% that was screaming back at me.

As my teacher declared the girls the winner, I was mobbed with high-fives and hugs.  Meanwhile, the boys, particularly the one who had corrected my paper, shouted out in opposition.

“She cheated!” I heard them accuse.

My face turned a crimson shade of red as I slid further down in my seat.  My one second of glory in the eyes of my friends had turned into disappointment in the eyes of my teacher, and would soon turn into a harsh punishment from my parents.

I was only in third grade and I was already choosing paths that were going against what my parents had taught me.  I questioned who my friends really were and why lying made them like me more.  How could I stay true to myself and still surround myself with the friends that I so wanted?

That is where this cool program called Girls on the Run comes in.  It is a program for girls eight to thirteen and it was started by a woman who struggled with her changing body and these same dilemmas that she calls “Girl-Box” issues.

We have all dealt with them; whether it be starving ourselves to be “skinny” in the eyes of our peers, trying something because our friends want us to, or even telling a little white lie to our parents in order to do something we know is wrong.  Anytime we do things that we don’t want to do in order to please others, we are stepping into the “Girl-Box” and we lose a piece of our own identity.

Molly Barker, the founder of Girls on the Run, was losing pieces of herself and started running in order to deal with the stresses of being a teenage girl.  Running made her feel beautiful and powerful and allowed her to shatter that box that surrounded her.  She decided that she was going to start a program that would help create a world where girls would never have to climb out of the box and could live peacefully and happily simply being themselves.

Wouldn’t it be fun to get together with a bunch of girls who are all looking for a way out of the box, or better yet, a way to stay out of the box completely?  Girls on the Run is that place.

It is a 12-week program that combines training for a 5k run with self-esteem building lessons.  Each week you will meet with your volunteer coaches and team and will complete various activities that correspond to weekly topics and goals.  There is even a question and answer time where you can get some answers and tips that could help you with problems you are having in school or at home.

Most girls finish the program with the tools to help them stay out of the box by giving them a stronger sense of identity, a greater acceptance of themselves, a healthier body image, and a greater understanding of what it means to be part of a team.

Girls on the Run programs start up in the spring and you can find one in most states.  Just go to www.girlsontherun.org to see if there is a program near you.  If not, ask your parent, teacher, or mentor to start one up at your school.  So go find a program and lace-up, so you, too, can stay out of the box!

 

Dee Delacher is a writer and mother who is passionate about Girls on the Run – and igniting some girl power.

Back to School Clothing Shopping Tips

Back to School Clothing Shopping
Back to School Clothing Shopping

Many parents dread back to school time because of fights with their tweens over clothing shopping.  Using these simple tips, you can have a stress-free shopping experience.

Tip #1: Look through Your Tweens Current Wardrobe – Go through your kid’s closet and see what’s already in there.  Donate or discard items that don’t fit or are worn out and get a sense for what can be worn in the new school year.

Tip #2:  Discuss Shopping Strategies – Before you head out to the mall, sit down and talk with your child about what new back to school clothing items are on their must have list and what is on the need list.  They will naturally want the coolest new looks, and designer labels, but you may be thinking more about a basic pair of blue jeans.

Tip #3: Make a Shopping List – Make two lists – once of items your tween needs and one of the things she wants.  Then allocate your overall budget to the wants vs. the needs.  Your tween can pick out her own back to school clothes from her wants, but when her portion of the budget is all used up, it’s gone.

Back to school shopping can be filled with tension between you and your tween, but it doesn’t have to be. Follow these tips above and you can have an easy clothes shopping experience this year.

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Back to School – How to Use a Planner

How to Use an Academic Planner
How to Use an Academic Planner

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Rose here, with another set of great tips for back to school success.  Today, I am going to share with you my easy tips for using that planner – you know that little book your parents buy you and you’re supposed to use to keep track of everything?  Well here are 4 easy ways to use that thing, instead of letting it collect dust…

  1. Pick one that’s right for you – planners come in all different styles, with some showing just the months and some with a page for each day.  Pick one that has enough room for you to write down all your to-dos and big events – I like ones that have a 2-page month spread for each month and then space for every day in that month…
  2. Add Dates right away – carry the planner with you everywhere – enter every homework assignment, deadline and event as soon as you can.  And then remember to look at it so you can see what’s coming up!
  3. Not just for school – don’t forget to write in all your other dates – like your sister’s birthday, or field trips or dance class, so you can plan you study time around your schedule
  4. Color Code – get colorful and pick a different color for each school subject and another color for after-school activities and so on so you can tell with a quick look how much you have to do in each category!

So see- using a planner isn’t so hard – and it will keep you organized and make schoolwork that much easier to handle – and you didn’t even have to hit the books!

Hey Are you ready for school?  Why don’t you download the complete GirlMogul Back to School Guide – it’s free – get it here

The Dancing Pancake a tween book

It seems like Bindi’s life is pretty normal – she loves to read and had good friends – until her parents announce their separating and moving to another city.  The book is in verse, and it gets interesting when Bindi helps her mom and aunt open a cafe.

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