Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Daisy here again, with more about Feelings… yeah – I know, not what you’d expect from me, but I think that’s why Abby assigned this topic to me. I mean, I would rather poke needles in my eye than talk about my feelings. Ok, not really, but according to Lily I am more of the try and ignore my feelings until they go away personality, than deal with them up front… So in my last posts I talked about ways to find someone to talk to you about your feelings. So great, you’ve got your feeling buddy all id’d and now what to you do. Do you go up to them and say, hey I need to talk about my feelings, got five minutes, or an hour, cause that’s how long it might take…. Yeah right – you wouldn’t want to approach the situation that way… but here are some simple ways to get a difficult topic started:
– I am feeling uncomfortable about sharing this…
– Is this a good time to talk about something important (this works well with adults – they don’t like to be interupted, unless they think you’re about to share, in which case, most will say yes – or they will say no but they will find time for you later…
– I need to share something that’s bothering me… – this is sure to get someone’s attention
– Sometime I feel so (angry, sad, upset) I don’t know what to do. Can you give me some advice? (trust me, just about anyone will LOVE to give you advice, especially if you ask for it…)
So guess what the hardest part of this touchy feely talk is? You guessed it – – getting started. So just try. Remember adults are all serious anyway and will respect that you’re trying to sound grown up – instead of running into someone’s office, house, kitchen all bawling, or sulking or generally behaving like they think a kid is supposed to.
So good luck with your feelings – check out our other posts on How to Deal to have all your questions answered….
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