Hey GirlMoguls – it’s Rose here, and there was a time when I was the new girl, and let me tell it was no fun – all I wanted to do was to be back at my old school, in my old town, with my old friends. But since New York City is like a million miles away from good ‘ole Weston, my new hood, it was pretty unlikely that I was going to see my new friends anytime soon. So here I was…the New Girl in town…and if you are too, you can use this 4 part strategy to start your new life…
Keep an open mind – It’s easy to think that the grass was always greener in your old school and home. You were used to it and life felt good – and comfortable. You might be inclined to dwell on how it used to be…but that can make you a real drag to be around. And trust me, if you go about comparing how much cooler your old school was to your new one, umm, pretty much no one will be interested in being friends with you…So before you start your first day, tell yourself that your new school is going to be WAY COOLER than your old one – keep telling yourself this and your mind will believe it – and you’ll be ready for the new adventure.
All the World’s the Stage – as the new girl, people will be wondering what kind of person you are. And all they’ll have to go on is what you show them. Now I am not talking about a total re-invention here. But if you have always wanted to be bubbly and outgoing, but really are a bit of a shy girl, well now’s the time to start being bubbly and outgoing. Smile and say hello, strike up conversations. After all, no one here knows you were a shy girl at your old school. Now, don’t try to be someone you’re not – ‘cause that never works for long. Just picture your best self – and try to be that person during the first few weeks.
Don’t be a wallflower – get out and say hello. Sometimes being the new girl means that you’ll get a lot of attention and it will be easy to meet new people. Other times, being the new girls means, well not a whole lot. So if the kids at your new school aren’t coming up and introducing themselves to you, don’t worry – take the initiative – but don’t try too hard. Just smile, say hello and try making some short conversations or small talk with the friendliest kids.
Be patient – You don’t find new BFFs overnight – usually. So be patient and let friendships grow. Try to be friendly to as many people as possible and get a sense for who they are – it might turn out that the group you wanted to be friends isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. It might take a while to find your spot – but you will find it – and find out that maybe you belonged there all along.
Hey tweens – it’s GirlMogul here with some more tips on back to school. Today I am going to give you some awesome tips on how to keep track of your school schedule – after all, if the difference between doing ok in school and better in school, was simply being more organized – rather than studying more, wouldn’t you be all over it?
Make a daily checklist – write down all your homework assignments in a planner or a little notebook and cross off each one when you finish (it’s such a GREAT feeling!) If something doesn’t get done – don’t sweat it – just move it to the list for the next day.
Set up a weekly chart – Create a simple grid for each week – you can draw it yourself or do it on the computer. Put the name of each subject in the left column and the days of the week across the top — then fill in all your homework assignments and t0-dos for the week. Tape the chart to your homework folder on Sunday night and you’ll always know what you have to focus on
Map out the month – some homework assignments overlap weeks, so don’t forget to put your big deadlines and activities for the month on a wall calendar – you can even use fun stickers or symbols to mark important events so they stand out. You can put this calendar where the whole family can see it so your parents can track your schedule too!
So – how easy peasy it is to keep yourself organized. Next up you’ll get GirlMogul Rose’s fullproof tips on how to use a planner. Till next time.
Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Rose and as back to school time rolls around, you’re probably thinking about, well going back to school. Maybe it’s no big deal to you, or maybe you’re really excited thinking about all the stuff you’re going to learn…or maybe you’re trying to figure out your social strategy?
Huh, social strategy – what’s that? You know what I’m talking about – are you vowing that this is the year you become a popular girl – no matter what? After all you’ve seen girls break into the cool kids club before – and now you want your turn right?
I mean there are some totally awesome benes that go with being cool, like lots of friends, always having boys interested in you, never having to worry about who you’re going to sit at with lunch. Of course the cool girls aren’t really your usual crowd, so it might take some work to become part of it, but it has to be totally worth it?
Well before you decide on your campaign to become part of the cool gang, you need to stop and think about whether it’s really worth it.
There are some bad things about being popular — like maybe having to not be friends with all the girls you used to hang with. Or being the target of rumors just because your popular, or always having to worry about what you say, in case it’s judged as “uncool.” Or having to be mean, just to be popular.
Betcha you didn’t think of all of those things. I mean, even though I was pretty popular at my old school, I never tried to be mean about it – but sometimes I did feel like I couldn’t say what was really on my mind because someone might think it was lame or make fun of me. Now with the other GirlMoguls I feel like I can say whatever I want – and even though they might make fun of me, they won’t think I’m not cool.
Sometimes having real friends is better than striving to be part of the “cool crowd!” So just make sure your social strategy includes being true to your real friends.
“Oh, so many things bubble up inside me… That’s why in the end I always come back to my diary. That is where I start and finish.”
Anne Frank – diarist
Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Rose again. Today we’re going to look at quotes about keeping a journal – as you know I’m a writer and I’ve always kept a diary ever since I could remember. Well more than one, it seems like I am always filling them up and finding a new cute one to start fresh.
I picked this quote because that’s how I feel too. I use my journal to help collect the bubbles. I mean growing up is hard to do – so many things seem to happen, between friends, and school and family. And then there are my emotions…It seems like I am having a new one every day. So when things get really bad, I just turn to my journal and write about it. Sometimes I write a few lines, and sometimes I write for pages – but whatever it is, afterwards, I always feel better. And if I had a problem, usually I have figure out a way to solve it – just by writing about.
So if you want to start your own journal – you don’t need anything fancy – a simple notebook, even a marble composition book will do – you can decorate it with stickers or some wrapping paper or magic markers. You can write in pen or paper, whatever. You can write every day or once a week, or only when you need to. You can keep your journal with you wherever you go, or you can keep it safe at home. You can re-read your entries or never look at them again. And remember they’re for your eyes only –so you can be honest, you can make spelling mistakes, you can even try writing in code. Just start writing and you’ll see how much better you feel.