Should You Be Keeping Secrets?

Miley Keeps them, But Should You?
Miley Keeps them, But Should You?

Hey Girls, it Rose here.  I was just thinking about old Hannah’s diary and the really big secret she was forced to keep and it got me thinking about whether keeping secrets is a bad thing.  You know the sitch.  It’s late at night at the sleepover and only you and your friend are still up.  She turns to you and says, I have something to tell you. Your eyes light up ‘cause you know it’s gonna be something good, otherwise, she would have told everyone in broad daylight.   But can you keep a secret – or should you?  I mean what if the secret is a big deal and you feel like your friend is in danger?  Or what if something really embarrassing happened to you and you’re dying to tell someone about it – but how can you be sure the whole school won’t hear about it?

Well, when someone shares a secret with you, you can feel pretty special – after all – you’ve really earned her trust.  And now you might be more willing to tell her one of your secrets.  And you’ll find that sharing makes you two grow closer.   But you need to be careful… When sharing secrets, start small, like maybe admitting how you really want to write a book someday, not about the fact that your parents are fighting all the time and you think they might be getting a divorce.  After your sure that your BFF can keep a secret you can share bigger ones.

But how can you be sure that your secret is leak proof – after all, once you tell someone a secret, it’s really no longer a secret.  Well you’ve gotta to make sure she knows it’s a secret.  If she doesn’t know for sure and word gets out – can you truly blame her for spilling the beans?  But if you told her something is secret and someone the whole world knows about it, well you might want find someone else to share secrets with…

And don’t forget you have to be a good secret keeper too – if you aren’t good at keeping secrets, well then people won’t take your secrets seriously.  Or they’ll stop telling you them totally – and you may ruin your friendships…

But what if you feel you HAVE to spill someone else’s secret.  Stay tuned for what to do when it’s time to spill the beans.

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How to Deal – Feuding Friends

BFF"s Fighting? What to do...
BFF"s Fighting? What to do...

Hey GirlMoguls, it’s Lily here.  Today I thought I’d talk about BFFs.  Of course, me and the other GirlMoguls are as tight as can be, but sometimes, you know, you and your group of BFFs can just, well, get into fights.  What happens when you’re formerly super tight group all of a sudden seems like its unraveling?

It can get really weird if you’re caught in the middle – like when two of them won’t talk to each other and they want your to take sides, or act as a go-between.  Well, you’ll totally need to evaluate the sitch and see what you should do.

So first of all, are your friends being polite to each other, but just not clicking?  Well then it could be that one of them has developed some new interests.  That’s ok – it may be that you can be friends with each of them separately, but that they’re just not right for each other.

Of course, what if the opposite is true – these girls are being truly nasty to one another!  Then you need to decide if the fight is over something silly – and if they’re being silly, or if it’s over something really serious…

Well, if it’s something silly, like a simple misunderstanding or someone was crabby one day and said something snarky, then maybe you can help – explain each other’s point of view and encourage them to apologize to one another.

If they won’t and force you to take sides, then it’s ok for your to back off.   Yup – take a break from these feuding meanies and reclaim your neutral status.  Be as polite as you can and never ever stoop to the level of badmouthing.  Sooner, rather than later, your friends will realize how silly they are and will work things out – and you’ll all be friends again.

Next time we’ll talk about what to do when the whole fight is over something a little more serious…and how to handle that too!

Later, Lils…

GirlMogul Lily
GirlMogul Lily

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